10 Things Your Wedding Planner Should Be Doing For You

Large Editorial Image


July 17, 2012

You’ve accepted the reality that you cannot do this on your own. You don’t know, or care to know, the difference between butter cream or fondant cakes, china silk or chiffon, or any of the other tedious decisions that a bride has to make. You’ve hired a wedding planner.

Good for you! So, now that you’ve ponied up a few grand for someone (who isn’t your mother-in-law) to make all the decisions and plans and arrangements, what can you expect? How do you know that he/she is actually doing everything you paid her for? These wedding Jedis are more than just clipboards and emergency safety pins. They can save you money, time and more importantly, ensure that you never sense a whiff of drama on your big day.

Here’s what you can and should expect yours to do:

1. Act as liaison with vendors: Vendors aren’t going to play fast and loose with prices or service when working with a wedding planner, because they hope to book other jobs through her. The planner has the power to recommend the vendor to other couples, so they will be on their best behavior when working with a planner or events company (the industry is all about referrals!).

2. Get discounts: Because they have long and established relationships with vendors (see above), a wedding planner should be able to get you packages and deals you wouldn’t be able to get on your own.

3. Get everything in writing: If a banquet hall manager offers you a free champagne toast during your meeting, it will be in the contract. If a florist offers free boutonnieres, they will, in fact, be free. A wedding planner is a businesswoman, and does not get caught up in sentiments or empty promises. A deal will not be sealed on a handshake.

4. Hand out final payments and gratuities to vendors: Because it’s tacky to tip the band when you’re in the middle of a Conga line.

5.  Oversee quality control: Are the flowers fresh? Is the cake on time? The planner takes care of chaos before it gets to you. If there is something wrong with a service, the planner can take photos and negotiate a refund.

6. Act as a referee: It’s just not a wedding unless family members are bickering. A good wedding planner has seen her share of family drama, and can be a neutral third party during negotiations. They have magical powers to diffuse uppity in-laws and other meddlesome players. And best of all, her (secret) agenda is to make YOU happy.

7. Manage time: Yes, they have wedding timelines online – but most are confusing and not customized to your day. A planner has wedding time management down to a science.

8.  Menial tasks no one else wants to do: Someone has to count the napkins and table linens at the end of the night before they go back to the company. Yes, dirty napkins and tablecloths. A wedding planner will do this.

9. Provide tricks and tips:  Planners have seen it all and if they’re good can offer you ideas to make the planning process easier. For example, when doing your own invites, planner often suggest using pencil on the back of a reply card to put a corresponding number to the person’s name on your guest list so if they reply without filling in their name, you can check who they are via the number on the back. These are the kind of insider gems you should expect from her.

10. Set up events so you can enjoy yourself! This goes beyond just running the rehearsal. If you’re having a welcome happy hour or an optional brunch the day after, it takes the pressure off of a family member or bridesmaid to do it. They want to celebrate with not, not worry about where to set up the quiches. Let the planner do it.

 

Tags:

weddings



  • Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick Don't Seem To Be On The Same Page About Their Relationship

    Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick Don't Seem To Be On The Same Page About Their Relationship

    Celebrity

    today

  • The Erdem x H&M Line Is Almost Here & It's Everything

    Style

    today

  • Drop Everything--We're Giving Away 50 Vibrating Flat Irons From Vanity Planet #SampleSaturday

    Drop Everything--We're Giving Away 50 Vibrating Flat Irons From Vanity Planet #SampleSaturday

    Beauty

    2 days

  • The Huda Beauty Desert Dusk Palette Is Crazy Beautiful-- See It To Believe It

    The Huda Beauty Desert Dusk Palette Is Crazy Beautiful-- See It To Believe It

    Beauty

    3 days

  • Weekend Project: Make Your Own Chemical Free Shampoo (It's Really Easy!)

    Weekend Project: Make Your Own Chemical Free Shampoo (It's Really Easy!)

    Beauty

    3 days

  • Move Over PSL! Starbucks Has A New Fall Latte & It's Amazing

    Move Over PSL! Starbucks Has A New Fall Latte & It's Amazing

    3 days

  • Drop Everything: Rihanna Just Announced There's ANOTHER Fenty Beauty Collection On The Way!

    Drop Everything: Rihanna Just Announced There's ANOTHER Fenty Beauty Collection On The Way!

    Beauty

    3 days

  • Shop The Prettiest Shoes With Bow Details For Fall Now

    Shop The Prettiest Shoes With Bow Details For Fall Now

    Shop

    3 days

  • HURRY: These Eyeshadow Palettes Are Finally Back In Stock (There's A 16K Waitlist!!!)

    HURRY: These Eyeshadow Palettes Are Finally Back In Stock (There's A 16K Waitlist!!!)

    Beauty

    3 days

  • THIS IS NOT A DRILL: Nicki Minaj x MAC Is Here--Plus 24 Bonus Nudes

    THIS IS NOT A DRILL: Nicki Minaj x MAC Is Here--Plus 24 Bonus Nudes

    Beauty

    3 days

  • Weekend Project: How To Make Your Own Tinted Lip Balm

    Weekend Project: How To Make Your Own Tinted Lip Balm

    Beauty

    3 days

  • Tons Of Super Cute Boots, Booties And Fall Shoes Are An Extra 20% Off At Gilt This Weekend

    Tons Of Super Cute Boots, Booties And Fall Shoes Are An Extra 20% Off At Gilt This Weekend

    Style

    3 days

  • Once And For All, Here's How To Untwist Elastic Under Fabric

    Once And For All, Here's How To Untwist Elastic Under Fabric

    Style

    4 days

  • Target Is Releasing A New Athleisure Line & You're Going To Want It All

    Target Is Releasing A New Athleisure Line & You're Going To Want It All

    4 days

  • Hold Up--People Can Now Record Your Snapchats With This New IOS 11 Feature

    Hold Up--People Can Now Record Your Snapchats With This New IOS 11 Feature

    4 days

  • People Are Just Now Realizing What Rihanna's Last Name Is & Their Reactions Are Hilarious

    People Are Just Now Realizing What Rihanna's Last Name Is & Their Reactions Are Hilarious

    Celebrity

    4 days

  • Grey Booties Are Trending Big Time For Fall--Get A Pair ASAP

    Grey Booties Are Trending Big Time For Fall--Get A Pair ASAP

    Style

    4 days

  • We're Giving Away 100 Portable Chargers From Toddy Gear #YoureWelcome

    We're Giving Away 100 Portable Chargers From Toddy Gear #YoureWelcome

    Style

    4 days

  • Here's How To Rock A Nude Shoe With Any Outfit

    Here's How To Rock A Nude Shoe With Any Outfit

    Style

    5 days

  • We Found The Most Bizarre Fanny Pack Ever & You Have To See It To Believe It (It's Got Hair On It!)

    We Found The Most Bizarre Fanny Pack Ever & You Have To See It To Believe It (It's Got Hair On It!)

    Style

    5 days

  • Balmain x L'Oréal Lipsticks Are Here--And We've Got Swatches!

    Balmain x L'Oréal Lipsticks Are Here--And We've Got Swatches!

    Beauty

    5 days

  • Need A New Look For Fall? Check Out These Cool Asymmetric Hairstyle Ideas

    Need A New Look For Fall? Check Out These Cool Asymmetric Hairstyle Ideas

    Beauty

    5 days

  • Your Fall Wardrobe Isn't Complete Without Burgundy--Shop Our Favorite Pieces Now

    Your Fall Wardrobe Isn't Complete Without Burgundy--Shop Our Favorite Pieces Now

    Shop

    5 days

  • 6 Willing Beauty Products Every Woman Must Own

    6 Willing Beauty Products Every Woman Must Own

    Beauty

    5 days

  • Start Your Day Off Right With These Healthy Breakfast Ideas #WellnessWednesday

    Start Your Day Off Right With These Healthy Breakfast Ideas #WellnessWednesday

    5 days

  • We're Giving Away 10 Pairs Of Chooka Rain Boots--Enter Now For Your Chance To Win!

    We're Giving Away 10 Pairs Of Chooka Rain Boots--Enter Now For Your Chance To Win!

    Style

    5 days

  • This Huge Topshop Announcement Has Our Wallet's Singing

    This Huge Topshop Announcement Has Our Wallet's Singing

    Style

    6 days

  • We Did The Shopping For You: Here’s Everything You Need From Victoria Beckham’s New Collection With Estée Lauder

    We Did The Shopping For You: Here’s Everything You Need From Victoria Beckham’s New Collection With Estée Lauder

    Beauty

    6 days

  • Forever 21 Just Got An Epic New Makeover & We're Obsessed

    Forever 21 Just Got An Epic New Makeover & We're Obsessed

    Beauty

    6 days

  • Once And For All, Here's The Simple Way To Remove Long-Wear Lipstick #SHEfindsSolutions

    Once And For All, Here's The Simple Way To Remove Long-Wear Lipstick #SHEfindsSolutions

    Beauty

    6 days

  • Upgrade Your Look (And Stay Warm!) With These Must-Have Fall Jackets

    Upgrade Your Look (And Stay Warm!) With These Must-Have Fall Jackets

    Style

    6 days

  • The Lane Bryant x Prabal Gurung Fall Collection Is Here & It's Everything

    The Lane Bryant x Prabal Gurung Fall Collection Is Here & It's Everything

    Style

    today

  • 5 Target Leggings Every Woman Should Own

    5 Target Leggings Every Woman Should Own

    Shop

    today

  • How To Break In Heels And Actually Make Them Comfortable To Wear

    How To Break In Heels And Actually Make Them Comfortable To Wear

    Style

    today

  • Whoa – This Foundation Is Selling Out FAST At Sephora!

    Whoa – This Foundation Is Selling Out FAST At Sephora!

    Beauty

    today

  • The Something Navy x Nordstrom Collection Is Finally Here And It's Everything You Wished For

    The Something Navy x Nordstrom Collection Is Finally Here And It's Everything You Wished For

    Shop

    today

  • 6 Things You Never Knew About Julianne Hough, According To Julianne Hough Herself

    6 Things You Never Knew About Julianne Hough, According To Julianne Hough Herself

    Beauty

    today

  • These Are The Boots Every Editor Wants This Year

    These Are The Boots Every Editor Wants This Year

    Style

    today

  • The One Drugstore Anti-Aging Product You Should Stop Using, According To A Dermatologist

    The One Drugstore Anti-Aging Product You Should Stop Using, According To A Dermatologist

    Beauty

    today

  • Are Scott & Kourtney Getting Back Together? Here Are The Biggest Moments From The 'Keeping Up With The Kardashians' 10 Year Anniversary Special

    Are Scott & Kourtney Getting Back Together? Here Are The Biggest Moments From The 'Keeping Up With The Kardashians' 10 Year Anniversary Special

    Celebrity

    1 day

  • Kylie Jenner Might Be PREGNANT & We're Freaking Out!!!

    Kylie Jenner Might Be PREGNANT & We're Freaking Out!!!

    Celebrity

    3 days

  • Your Hair Actually May Be AGING You, According To A Hairstylist

    Your Hair Actually May Be AGING You, According To A Hairstylist

    Beauty

    3 days

  • KKW Beauty's Powder Contour & Highlight Kits Are Back In Stock -- Get Them Before They're Gone!

    KKW Beauty's Powder Contour & Highlight Kits Are Back In Stock -- Get Them Before They're Gone!

    Beauty

    3 days

  • The Best iPhone 8 Cases You Need To Buy Right Now

    The Best iPhone 8 Cases You Need To Buy Right Now

    Shop

    3 days

  • Here's Everything You Need From Beyoncé's New Ivy Park Collection (They're Under $100!)

    Here's Everything You Need From Beyoncé's New Ivy Park Collection (They're Under $100!)

    Celebrity

    3 days

  • Here's What Our Editors Have In Their Nordstrom Shopping Carts Right Now

    Here's What Our Editors Have In Their Nordstrom Shopping Carts Right Now

    Style

    3 days

  • 5 Cheap Natural Anti-Aging Serums Dermatologists Swear By

    5 Cheap Natural Anti-Aging Serums Dermatologists Swear By

    Beauty

    3 days

  • The One Drugstore Face Wash You Should Stop Using, According To A Dermatologist

    The One Drugstore Face Wash You Should Stop Using, According To A Dermatologist

    Beauty

    3 days

  • The 2-Second Trick For Distressing Your Jeans

    The 2-Second Trick For Distressing Your Jeans

    Style

    4 days

  • 3 Easy Tricks For Breaking In A New Leather Jacket

    3 Easy Tricks For Breaking In A New Leather Jacket

    Style

    4 days

  • We Did The Shopping For You: Here’s Everything You Need From Fenty Beauty By Rihanna

    We Did The Shopping For You: Here’s Everything You Need From Fenty Beauty By Rihanna

    Beauty

    4 days

  • 5 Sephora Weekly Wow Items To Buy Before They're Crazy Expensive Again

    5 Sephora Weekly Wow Items To Buy Before They're Crazy Expensive Again

    Beauty

    4 days

  • How To Take Nail Polish Off Without Nail Polish Remover

    How To Take Nail Polish Off Without Nail Polish Remover

    Beauty

    4 days