Everything You Need To Know About Taking Him Out Of The Friend Zone

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January 5, 2016

If you find yourself asking the question, “am I in the friend zone?” you probably are. The transition from friends to dating can be tough, and quite confusing. We find ourselves overwhelmed with questions like, “Should I go for it?” “What if he doesn’t feel the same?” and “How do I find out?” In order to free yourself from your thoughts and boundaries, you need to let him know your true feelings, but before you take the BIG leap check out my 5 tips on how to turn your “fromance” into true romance.

1. Keep A Healthy Distance

Normally, I’m the first to advise that you should always make yourself available for those you care about, but in this case I’d like to bend the rules. The fact is, you two already have a “relationship.” You’ve gotten into the habit of making yourself available whenever and wherever he wants you. He doesn’t have to worry about losing you, so why should he put himself out on a limb to move the relationship along? Well, he doesn’t. If you want to begin transitioning him out of the “friend zone,” you need to shake things up! Show him that you’re fully capable of living your life independently by keeping busy. The busier and happier you are may push him to want to stay busy and happy with you!..see how that works?

2. Make An Effort

When we’re comfortable with someone, we tend to get lazy with our appearance. “There’s no reason to put in any effort, if he already knows what i look like at my worst, right?” WRONG! If you’re trying to move him out of the “friend zone,” he needs to start seeing you as something other than his “plain jane platonic friend.” If he isn’t used to seeing you dolled up, then show him your sexy side! His new impression of you will peak his interest and his view of your relationship.

3. Show Him Your Wanted

If you’re going to move forward, you need to confirm that he also has romantic feelings for you. To confirm, you two are or can be on the same page, you need to evoke an honest reaction from him. How? Show him you’re desired by others. If this is done in a in a respectable and casual manner, you’ll surely see his competitive nature surface. Maybe he does have some feelings for you after all?

4. Be Fun & Flirty

If you’re good friends, it shouldn’t be too difficult for you to compliment him once in awhile! However, if you’re trying to move things along, you need to kick it up a notch! Not only should you be telling him he looks hot, but you should be showing him with flirtatious body language. Your actions will not only be a huge confidence booster, but may give him the confidence to reciprocate.

5. Be Upfront & Honest

At this point, he notices a shift in your behavior, so you might as well lay it all out on the table, (and no, I’m not referring to your body! One thing at a time..). In the worst case scenario, you may lose a friendship, but if your relationship is strong enough, a new type of friendship will most likely blossom. Life is too short to hide the truth. If you want something bad enough, go for it. There is so much to gain and very little to lose.

 

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