How It Really Feels To Be Cheated On

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December 22, 2015

Don’t worry this article won’t resemble a depressing page out of my diary, but it will be a familiar voice for those who have been cheated on and a slap in the face for those who’ve been unfaithful. (Shame on you if you’re the latter!) As many of us know, being cheated on sucks, plain and simple; but for those of you that have been lucky enough not to experience it, check out the truths of what it REALLY feels like to be cheated on… (maybe some of you may think twice).

1. Self doubt

Self Doubt is a common reaction, although not easily admitted. When you’ve been cheated on, you begin to question yourself and the relationship. Heck, you always considered yourself to be intelligent, attractive, caring and most importantly a good fit for your partner…but then your self-image is contradicted by his shameless betrayal. As easy as it is to get down on ourselves, you have to remember those that do “cross the forbidden line” are usually the ones that carry the most self doubt. Don’t let someone else’s mistake establish your reality.

2. Emptiness

Ughh.. This is by far one of the hardest feelings to get past….at least for me. Why? Because feeling empty is scary! Emptiness often comes shortly after all of the arguing and sobbing has been exhausted.. When we’re feeling empty inside, we often worry that we’ll never feel fulfilled again, but trust me, with time, the feeling of emptiness will fade and we’ll find the closure that we once longed for.

3. Frustration

After all is said and done, and there’s nothing more to cry about, our frustration sets in. You’re spending countless hours dwelling on the why? When? and what happens next?? It can be extremely frustrating knowing that your relationship has come to an end simply due to a BIG lapse in judgement. I mean, WTF?! This isn’t how it was supposed to turn out! Well, girlfriend, it did. Instead of focusing on what could have been, try channeling your frustration on what’s to come.

4. Relief

I truly believe that there are two types of relief that one can experience. One of which comes from the person that spends countless hours searching for answers, only to find what she already knew. This relief is minimal and unsatisfactory. The second type of relief stems from the person that recognizes and accepts the infidelity as a positive outcome. This person walks away with a sense of relief knowing that she is leaving her toxic relationship behind and moving forward to a healthier future. Personally, I’ll pick the latter.

 



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