Admit it: resolutions are made to be broken. Every year we say this is the year I’m going to “live life to the fullest” or “lose all my baby weight” and you know what? It never happens. So stop wasting your resolutions on things that don’t really matter and make this year the year things change. Don’t resolve to get skinnier or exercise more–just decide this is the year I’m going to be an even better mom. Start with these 12…
1. Stop posting all your kid’s pics on Facebook and instead make a real, tangible album with the photos. Yes, it requires actually going to a store and printing the pics, but imagine how much better it will be in 25 years to sit down with your kid and look through an actual photo album. Clicking through a slideshow just doesn’t have the same effect and who knows where Facebook will be in 25 years anyway.
2. Tell your kid you love him/her 5 times more than you already do. If you only say it before bed, find 4 other times throughout the day to say it. If you’re already saying it 5 times a day, keep up the good work–and start leaving your kid love notes in the lunch box or in the sock drawer reminding your little one how much you love him/her. And don’t just tell–show your kids, too.
3. Reduce your kid’s TV time by one hour each day. And use that hour to get down on the floor, sit at a table or go outside and spend real, genuine QT with your kid. I have nothing against Dora, but your kid shouldn’t know more about Dora than he/she knows about you.
4. Splurge on yourself at least once each season. Because you deserve it. Period.
5. Take a trip… without your kids. For some, like me, this won’t be easy. But even I’m coming to see it’s necessary. Even if your trip is just a weekend getaway, use this time to relax, recharge and come back to your kids re-energized. Plus, being away will only help you appreciate just how much you love them. As they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder.
6. Teach your kid one valuable lesson you didn’t learn until you were an adult. For me, it’s totally going to be money management and the importance of saving. Some other ideas include healthy eating habits, showing affection or a love for learning. Whatever you decide, commit to instilling this lesson in your child in small ways throughout the year.
7. Take a class with your kid. Because anyone can drop a kid off at ballet or karate and come back in an hour. Do better in 2012 by actually participating with your kid in a mommy and me yoga class or cooking class. Check out Plum District or Doodle Deals for deals on classes in your area.
8. Take baths with your kid… regularly. I get that this may not be cool for all moms, but I can’t even tell you how my daughter lights up when I join her in the bath tub. Maybe it’s because in the hustle and bustle of the day, bath time can seem like a bit of a chore. Either way, it’s a nice change of pace for your kid to see that bath time isn’t just another thing you want to check off your daily to-do list. And that you can have fun in the tub, too.
9. Volunteer together as a family. Because no matter how little you think you have, there are always people who have it worse. And it’s never too early to teach your child to care about others.
10. Plan a family staycation. Family vacations are usually all go go go and you almost always come home feeling more exhausted than when you left. So instead, take one week off from work and spend those 7 days staying local with your kids. Heck, some days you don’t even have to leave the house. It’s just a much-needed opportunity to stop and remind yourselves what really matters–your family and that you’re all together.
11. Stop watching TV shows that profit from women behaving badly. This includes, but is not limited to, Real Housewives, Bad Girls Club and any of the “Wives” shows. Keep in mind, these fighting, screaming, drink-throwing women are someone’s daughter and in a few years, they could be your daughter. Stop these shows now.
12. Kiss like there is no tomorrow. Whenever my daughter is sick and I take her to the doctor, my pediatrician always jokes, “I guess someone hasn’t been getting enough kisses.” It’s silly, but maybe there’s something to it. So who cares if you’re grossing strangers out or your kid keeps screaming, “I’m a big girl!” Smother those kiddies in kisses because tomorrow is not promised.
Any thing else you’ve resolved to do this year? Share in the comments.