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12 Things To Do As Soon As You Get Engaged

October 29, 2018 by Justine Schwartz

 

Engagement season is in full mode, which means lucky ladies everywhere have a brand-new rock on their finger – and the daunting task of planning a wedding in front of them.

If your man is about to pop the question, congrats! You’re on the verge of a life-changing, whirlwind year. Before you change your relationship status on Facebook and start acting all Bridezilla, here’s what you must do. Find out the first most important 10 items to complete on your to-do list (plus, tips for getting them done!).

Engagement Checklist: 10 Things To Do As Soon As He Gives You A Ring

1. Get A Manicure: Your hand is about to be the subject of a lot of photos and constant attention (“Ooh, let me see that ring!”), so don’t embarrass yourself with some chipped, unpolished hot mess of a hand. Get a mani, professional or at-home, as soon as possible.

2. Insure Your Ring: If your fiance hasn’t done it already, you need to insure your engagement ring immediately. The jeweler where he purchased it should refer you to certified insurers. Don’t forget to ask the jeweler for an appraisal slip which will be used to determine its value.

3. Settle On A Budget: Whoever is bankrolling your wedding — whether it’s you, your fiance, his parents or yours — needs to sit down and have that uber-awkward, but essential conversation about the wedding budget, including a specific number. Keep all family relationships intact by minding this budget down to the last red cent.

4. Pick A Date: You’ll need to know the date – or at the very least the season/month – of your wedding before making many other important decisions (like picking your gown, theme, bridesmaid dresses, etc).

5. Choose A Diet Plan & Start It: If you plan to lose weight for your wedding, the worst thing you can do is wait until the last minute and crash diet (so unhealthy!). If you plan to lose more than 5 lb., you should give yourself 9-12 months to do it.

6. Sign Up For Pinterest: Holy motherload of inspiration — I honestly don’t know what brides did before Pinterest. It is hands-down the most intuitive and vast resource for inspiration; search and save photos of everything from your dream dress to DIY favors, mouth-watering cakes and more.

7. Pick A Location: The location — city and venue — is the most significant decision you’ll make for the wedding, so it’s better to get this discussion started as soon as possible. All parties involved, ie. his family and yours, will have an opinion about where you should be married, so hear all sides, consider the season, theme and budget, and settle on a venue that works best for you and your guests. Here are the 10 things you need to know before picking your wedding venue.

8. Adopt Better Beauty Habits: It’s time to quit smoking, start exercising, following a diligent skincare regime, and jettisoning any other bad beauty habits that will keep you from looking your best on the big day. Here is a list of 10 beauty habits to adopt as soon as you get engaged.

9. Hire A Planner: Girl, I don’t care how Type-A, organized, rockstar you are — you’re going to need a wedding planner. At the very, very least for the day-of, but I highly recommend hiring someone to help you for the long haul. Find out exactly what you can expect from a professional planner before signing that contract!

10. Sign Up For Sale Alerts: The gown will be your major purchase, and in my opinion is worth splurging on, but the accessories are not. Even designers like Jimmy Choo and Christian Louboutin go on sale, so set sale alerts on Shopstyle by designer name or specific product.

11. Have ‘The Money Talk’ With Your Fiance: Not only will you have to have that uncomfortable conversation about the wedding budget, but you’ll also need to suss out the logistics that come along with merging your bank accounts. “What’s yours is mine!” isn’t as simple as it sounds.

12. Sign Up For Trunk Show Alerts: Follow your local bridal boutique on Facebook and refer to your regional bridal magazine for a list of designer trunk shows in your area. At these shows, you’ll be able to try on designer gowns — some straight off the runway.

Photos: Shutterstock

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brides, engagement, proposal, wedding advice, wedding planning, weddings

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  • Ha! I thought this was smart! Hell yea I want to lose weight, ( who doesnt) hell yea I want someone else to plan my wedding and hell yea that ring better be big enough to where I have to get it insured! :)

  • grow some balls, ladies! Get a manicure and lose some weight? How shallow is your fiance that he won't marry you the way that you are?

    • We have 2 sets, one of which guys like to play with...A LOT. The manicure may not be for everyone, but some of us want our hands to look pretty so they compliment the ring you gave us. We KNOW you love us for who we are and how we are, but there is NOTHING wrong with us getting a mani for ourselves. Some of us girls want to show off the beautiful ring on a tailored hand. As for the weight loss: not all girls feel comfortable in their skin, so if they choose to feel better about themselves when the big day comes, so be it. That's their choice. You obviously are happy with how you look, so feel free to ignore those two "helpful tips". Don't go bashing all the girls who do these things to feel better about themselves. In a society that exudes a particular sense of beauty, I don't blame them for wanting to look "pretty". So next time you think you should tell us women to "grow some balls" remember that we have 2 sets...you must be missing yours.

      • We have 2 sets, one of which guys like to play with...A LOT. The manicure may not be for everyone, but some of us want our hands to look pretty so they compliment the ring you gave us. We KNOW you love us for who we are and how we are, but there is NOTHING wrong with us getting a mani for ourselves. Some of us girls want to show off the beautiful ring on a tailored hand. As for the weight loss: not all girls feel comfortable in their skin, so if they choose to feel better about themselves when the big day comes, so be it. That's their choice. You obviously are happy with how you look, so feel free to ignore those two "helpful tips". Don't go bashing all the girls who do these things to feel better about themselves. In a society that exudes a particular sense of beauty, I don't blame them for wanting to look "pretty". So next time you think you should tell us women to "grow some balls" remember that we have 2 sets...you must be missing yours.

  • Or, you can get married in Vegas or city hall and save yourself a year of stressing and going crazy and tens of thousands of dollars down the drain. No-one is going to remember your wedding except for you, and you might very well remember it as the most stressful, horrific day of your life.

    • Vegas can be fun way to get married. I am planning my Vegas wedding right now. If you and your fiancee have a great sense of humor. You can have a cheap but fun wedding that you will alwsys remember.

      • Vegas can be fun way to get married. I am planning my Vegas wedding right now. If you and your fiancee have a great sense of humor. You can have a cheap but fun wedding that you will alwsys remember.

    • So true - i can't agree more- so much money down the drain and you just end up stressed out and exhausted beyond belief.... use the money to start life your lives together. How about a downpayment on a home or even a washer and dryer- there are so many things you need when you get married and who needs the stress added to a new relationship- marriage is a big adjustment as it is, do yourself a favor, have a small, intimate low cost wedding that you can enjoy and use any other funds for your new life together... the wedding will still be beautiful and life will begin without a ton of debt hanging over your heads!

      • So true - i can't agree more- so much money down the drain and you just end up stressed out and exhausted beyond belief.... use the money to start life your lives together. How about a downpayment on a home or even a washer and dryer- there are so many things you need when you get married and who needs the stress added to a new relationship- marriage is a big adjustment as it is, do yourself a favor, have a small, intimate low cost wedding that you can enjoy and use any other funds for your new life together... the wedding will still be beautiful and life will begin without a ton of debt hanging over your heads!

    • I'd agree except I think both of those are the most unromantic ways to get married. My brothers did one of each (one rushed and one shotgun) and we still talk about how nice it would have been to have a proper wedding. I've been planning mine for years and am totally comfortable poring over wedding books and magazines and making lists and calling vendors and balancing budgets and delegating duties so my GUESTS have a spectacular, memorable time. My focus is on their comfort and enjoyment. But simply because I'm attentive to detail doesn't mean I'm a controlling perfectionist drama queen whose whole wedding is going to be ruined because the mini hot dogs weren't served with the right kind of mustard. It is possible to plan your own big, fun wedding and still have a great time at the party.

      • I'd agree except I think both of those are the most unromantic ways to get married. My brothers did one of each (one rushed and one shotgun) and we still talk about how nice it would have been to have a proper wedding. I've been planning mine for years and am totally comfortable poring over wedding books and magazines and making lists and calling vendors and balancing budgets and delegating duties so my GUESTS have a spectacular, memorable time. My focus is on their comfort and enjoyment. But simply because I'm attentive to detail doesn't mean I'm a controlling perfectionist drama queen whose whole wedding is going to be ruined because the mini hot dogs weren't served with the right kind of mustard. It is possible to plan your own big, fun wedding and still have a great time at the party.

  • You definitely do not need to hire a planner. Especially if you have a lot of family and friends who are going to be willing to help you.

  • You do not need a wedding planner! That's ridiculous. I know many brides who have planned their own weddings, including myself. Two years ago, I planned mine ALL by myself and everything turned out perfect.. just give yourself 10 months to a year to be engaged so you don't stress yourself out!

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