Every bride worries about whether or not her wedding day will be a success. And while not every decision is the right one for every couple, there are a few that almost every bride and groom comes to regret.
1. Listening to other people. Everyone–and we mean everyone–has an opinion about weddings. If you listen to everyone’s two cents, it will drive you crazy, says Jen Glantz of Bridesmaid for Hire. “Remember, this is your wedding. Only take on other’s advice when you feel as though you’re unsure about something.”
2. Racking up serious debt. Depending on your market, the average cost of a wedding right now in the US is around $35,000–that is an incredible amount of money for six hours, says Kimberly Morrill of Your Perfect Bridesmaid. “With student loan debt being what it is, and housing costing what it does, many couples wake up the day after the wedding falling into depression realizing that they could have just paid off their student loan or put down a down payment on a house.”
3. Not hiring a quality photographer. Yes, a professional wedding photographer can be pricey, but there’s good reason for that. You want your photos to be beautiful and something you look upon for years to come. The same goes for a videographer. While it might seem like a good idea to save money, you might very well regret not having video from this important day.
4. Choosing too many bridesmaids. “Do not choose every woman in your family or friends from middle school just because you feel obligated,” says Kinsey Roberts of Vista View Events. “Not only will your bridal party look like a circus, you’ll regret having to try and keep so many different women happy. Breathe, relax and make the decision that’s right for you.”
5. Registering for things you think you need. If you already have a blender and a coffee maker, don’t think you need to register for just kitchen appliances. Check out other, more personal, registries, says Glantz.
6. Letting your parents invite everyone they know. If your parents are paying for some or all of the wedding, it can be tough to say no to them. But you want your day to be about sharing your love with those nearest and dearest to you, so in as diplomatic way as possible, try to reason with mom and dad in when it comes to the guest list.
7. Buying wedding favors that no one keeps or uses. “I always advise my clients to purchase favors that are either edible or something the guests will want to keep,” says Alicia Smith of Touched By Innocence. “For example if you have a photo booth make sure they have one the spot printing for guests with the event info/logo on the picture. Everyone will keep a picture of themselves and they will always remember that moment is from your special day.”
8. Letting a friend officiate. While it sounds fun at the time, in most cases it leads to a less than stellar experience, says Alan Katz of Great Officiants. “When choosing a friend, they don’t understand the intricacies of the wedding ceremony process such as where to position the couple, how to use a microphone, when to tell the guest to sit or stand, how to work with the other vendors. A professional officiant is trained to deal with all the aspects of the ceremony.”
9. Getting distracted during the ceremony. This is the most important part of the day, so pay attention to all of the details.
10. Not hiring entertainment. While it is often tempting to just plug in an iPod or your phone, it still doesn’t address the need for an emcee or master of ceremonies, says Morrill. “You really need to have a dedicated person make announcements in order to keep the flow organized and running smoothly. And while loading songs on to a device ensures music, you need a person to blend in the right mix to ensure dancing. It’s also a huge stress reliever to not have to worry about the potential tech issues that can arise.”
11. Too much DIY. “It can end up costing more or close to an alternate option and cause you more stress than it’s worth,” says Jodi Everts of Love, Madison Weddings.
12. Thinking everything will go wrong. It won’t, but some things along the way will. “Don’t waste time worrying about this and instead enjoy the day,” says Glantz.
[Photo: KT Merry]