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4 Mistakes Couples Make Before Getting Engaged

January 25, 2016 by ashley kaylor
shefinds | Style

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m certainly not trying to take away the excitement of being engaged. In fact, getting engaged will be one of the most exciting times of your life. However, we tend to forget our relationships and ourselves in all the hype. This often results in small mistakes that can lead to big disasters (aka divorce). We don’t want that…. Check out the most common mistakes couples make before getting engaged.

1. You Don’t Have Your Own Identity

If you don’t have your own interests (or friends for that matter), you’re setting yourself up for disaster. The MOST important relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself. As comfortable as it is to spend all your free time with your partner, you need to establish your own identity. If you don’t take the time to get to know yourself, your values, your goals, and your deal breakers, how can you ever contribute to the relationship?Remember, codependency isn’t cute, it’s toxic.

2. You’re Getting Married For the WRONG Reasons.

Your biological clock is ticking..

All of your friends are married and you’ll be damned if you’re the last one.

You’ve been dating longer than most marriages you know… (it’s about that time).

Your partner is financially stable and your not ( …not even close actually).

You’re not happy with your relationship, but you’re too lazy to get back into the dating game (aka settling).

3. You Haven’t Discussed Your Long Term Goals

If you haven’t addressed your future together, then you better hop to it missy! As an individual and couple, you need to have goals. Having goals not only provides a common passion for you to work on, but it also adds a layer of devotion to your relationship. You now have things to look forward together..

4. You’re Getting Caught Up In the Wedding Frenzy!

What could be better than planning a celebration devoted to you! I mean, come on, you’re inundated with love from your friends and family, the preparation of the biggest party you’ll EVER have and most importantly the “serious bank” that you’ll be receiving from your relatives!!!.. (I’m just kidding, money isn’t important, cough cough) On a serious note, one of the most common mistakes that couples make is allowing the wedding planning to cloud the realities that come along with becoming husband and wife. As wonderful as it all may be, there does come a time when the party ends and reality sets in. Make sure you’re prepared for it.

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