Firstly, let me start out by admitting that I’m guilty of all bad habits listed below. However, I can be the first one to say that at the ripe old age of 31, I’ve finally learned that dating doesn’t have to be so difficult as we make it. Learn from my mistakes and kick your bad habits now!
1. Don’t Abide By The “3 Day Rule”
Who made up this rule anyway? It doesn’t make any sense. What are “we” really proving on day three rather than day one? Oh that’s right, nothing. As we grow up, we come to realize that the traditional antiquated dating “rules” reflect nothing more than immaturity. Call when you want to call. Text when you want to text. Simple. And if your new beau is turned off by your upfront approach …no problem, let him wait another 3 days for the next girl.
2. Don’t Reply To His “Hey, Wanna Meet Up?’ Texts.
What is that? Are you inviting me on a date? Or is this a mass text directed to the lucky “winner” who replies first? Either way , no thank you. If you’re looking for a serious relationship, then start by taking yourself seriously. No need to jump at every proposal. If your his last minute thought, make him your last priority.
3.Don’t Be TOO Picky.
Yes, I do want you to have standards, however I don’t want you to have a laundry list that includes your eye color preference. Good luck with that! The longer your list is, the farther you are from finding the “one.” Give people with different body types, occupations and interests a chance. Dare to date, you never know you may surprise yourself!
4. Don’t Waste Your Time
If you’re getting mixed singles, then move on! If you’re hoping things will get “better.” Move on! Why spend countless hours analyzing every nook and cranny of your relationship, when he’s not!? Life is too short, spend your time on someone who’s ready and willing to spend their time on you.
5. Don’t Play Too-Hard-To-Get
Playing hard to get can be fun. I get it. It boosts appeal and adds a little spice to the mix. However, there has to be boundaries. If you let him chase you too long, but never actually give in, you’re sending turning him off! Sooner or later, he’ll get tired and stop chasing you. Find a balance between the chase and the capture. Trust me the latter is always better.