5 Things You Should Never Say to a Mom

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August 30, 2011

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You know how they say that kids say the darndest things?  Well, adults say some pretty terrible things, too, and it’s worse because they actually know what they’re saying!  Don’t believe me?  Let’s start with these five things you should never say to a mom.

1. How far along are you? I get this one all the time…maybe it’s because I look like I’m five months pregnant with my big a** belly.  But just because a woman looks pregnant, doesn’t mean she is.  As my mother-in-law wisely says, “Don’t assume anything because it makes an “ass” out of “u” and “me”.

2. You look tired. I said this to one of my mom friends back in the day when our sons were babies, and you should have seen the look on her face.  It was a mix between shock, anger, embarrassment and sadness.  Apparently, she wasn’t tired; her son slept through the night for once and she did, too.  Boy did I make her day.

3.  Are you the nanny? I’ve been asked this question, too.  So what if my two-year old daughter has light brown hair with blond highlights and mine is jet black.  We might not exactly look alike, but the moment you hear her calling me “Mama” should be the moment you stop wondering whether I’m her nanny or her mommy.

4.  What do you do all day? This one’s for all the stay-at-home moms.  It’s insulting to think that SAHMs don’t do much.  We do the same thing that your daycare provider, babysitter or nanny does, probably only better, for free and without sick days or vacations.  And many of us squeeze in some volunteer or part-time work while our kids are at school or napping.

5.  You’re still breastfeeding? Whether she chooses to breastfeed for one month, one year, two years, or more, it’s really none of your business how long a mom breastfeeds her child.  Period.

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