There’s no doubt you have some a set vision for your wedding, and since it is most definitely your day, you might be tempted to dismiss everyone else’s opinions–even your own mom! But when planning your event you’ll soon to come to realize that when it comes to certain situations, mother really does know best. Here are six times you should absolutely listen to your mother when putting together your big day.
1. Etiquette. Some things never go out of style, and etiquette is one of them. So if mom gets on you about taking too long with your bridal shower thank you notes or insists that you change the way a certain guest’s name is addressed on the invites, heed her advice.
2. Seating Arrangements. When figuring out where to place family members–especially older ones–your mom will know best where to seat them. Between family squabbles, sibling rivalries and more, she should have the inside scoop on who will get along best at a table and who should sit on opposite sides of the room.
3. Budget. If your parents are paying for some or all of the wedding, you’ll want to listen to your mom’s advice when it comes to spending for the big day. Although it’s been awhile since she planned her own wedding, your mother can still help you to prioritize what’s important for the day and what you can skip in order to save. After all, she likely has years of experience when it comes to making–and sticking to–a budget.
4. Music. While we’re not saying you should let mom create the playlist for your reception, you should honor her request to play music that will appeal to a wide range of guests. You can’t just choose music for the younger set–some of your older guests will also want the chance to dance, so be sure to play music they’ll enjoy, too.
5. Vendors. Your mom likely has some experience in hiring professionals, whether it’s repairmen for the house or employees at work. So allow her to come to interview potential wedding vendors, negotiate price, look over contracts and more.
6. Staying Calm. When wedding planning is especially stressful, mom can be the voice of reason. It often takes just a few soothing words from dear old mom to calm you down and make you feel instantly better.