Toasting the bride and groom at their wedding is a big responsibility. But don’t panic–these seven tips will ensure that you wow the guests with perfect words for the happy couple.
1. Keep it clean. You should try to keep any scandalous stories about the bride and/or groom for the bachelor or bachelorette parties. There will likely be older family members and parents’ friends at the reception, and they won’t want to hear about those partying college days or the wild weekend you all spent in Vegas.
2. Stay sober. While you might want to have a drink for some liquid courage, keep the drinking to just the one. You don’t want to be a slurring, unsteady mess up there.
3. Write in advance. Some people are great at speaking off the cuff and can go up there and improvise an
amazing speech. But most of us don’t have that talent, so it’s best to write the speech a week or so before the big day.
4. Run it by someone else. Whether it’s your significant other or a good friend, practice the speech before the
event. And make sure it’s someone who is honest and you can trust his/her opinion!
5. Make it short. The toast should be under three minutes. People want to get to the party, so don’t bore them with a soliloquy.
6. Mix emotions. You don’t have to be Amy Schumer up there, keeping everyone in stitches the whole time. If you want to tell a quick, funny anecdote–go for it. But don’t forget to also speak from the heart.
7. Focus on the bride and groom. While you might want to regale guests with college tales or childhood stories about you and the bride/groom, remember that this day is all about the bride and groom. So while you can include a quick anecdote about the good old days, keep the focus on the newlywed and their love.
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