8 Things Guys Should Do Before They Propose

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November 13, 2014

Before popping the question, there are certain things a future groom needs to consider before he gets down on one knee. From figuring out money to shopping for a ring, here are the top items to think about before the proposal.

Test the waters. Marriage should be something you’ve talked about before the proposal–after all, you don’t want to get down on one knee unless you know she’ll say yes. So if you haven’t broached the subject yet, do so now. Find out her thoughts on getting married and if it’s something she can see herself doing (with you) in the near future.

Make sure you’re ready. Are you ready to make a lifelong commitment to this woman? Before you pop that question, you need to be 100 percent sure the answer is yes.

Get your finances in order. Don’t start your life together in a heap of debt. While some is okay–student loan, car payment, mortgage–others, such as massive credit card debt, can cause a lot of stress on a relationship.

Set a budget for the ring. Once you’ve paid off any unnecessary debt, then make sure you don’t accumulate any more by setting a realistic budget for a ring. Do some research online, ask recently engaged guy friends how much they paid and visit some local jewelers to get an idea of how much you’ll need to save.

Talk to her parents. While some find the act of asking for a woman’s hand in marriage old-fashioned, her parents will appreciate you coming to them before you propose–if only to let them know how much you love their daughter and how lucky you feel to make her your wife.

Find out her ring size and stone preference. This can be a tough one if you’re looking for the proposal to be a surprise. You can take her for some ring window shopping, or even better, ask one of her girlfriends to do it and report back to you. She might be less suspicious if someone else takes her.

Shop around. This isn’t a purchase you want to make in a snap. Do your research and visit several jewelers before coming to that final decision. Also, ask about each one’s return or exchange policy. We’re sure she’ll love the ring you choose, but just in case she doesn’t, you want to know she can exchange it for the one she really wants.

Plan the perfect proposal. Every bride wants her proposal to be special (see 25 Engagement Videos). While you don’t need to hire a flash mob or get a celeb to help you out, you do want to make popping the question a special moment for the both of you.

Don’t miss these creative food and drink bars for your wedding, plus how to plan your wedding budget.

 

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