But splurge on the best. Is there something truly important to you about your wedding? Maybe you want an award-winning photographer, following you around the city and taking breathtaking shots. Maybe you want couture shoes, exotic flowers, or a five-star honeymoon after it's over. "When you plan a very small wedding, you can go very big on the details--and get exactly what you want!" says Sandy Wieber, co-owner of The Bayfront Marin House in St. Augustine, Florida.
There will be less stress. Smaller weddings have fewer moving parts, which means fewer things can go wrong. In addition, the stress of a big wedding--making sure to meet all your guests, the pressure of making everyone feel welcome, the intensity of all those people--can take away much of the fun of your wedding day, says Jeff Kear, owner of Planning Pod. "A smaller wedding takes away all those extraneous pressures so you can focus on each other and fully take in the moment."
You can focus on your vows. Small weddings allow you and your fiancé to be "present" in the words and vows of your ceremony. You're not worried about the band setting up on time or will the linens be pressed properly, you are surrounded by love and love is all you need to focus on at that time, notes Jolyn Saramaga, a destination wedding travel consultant.
You'll have more venue options. Smaller weddings are more conducive to the intimate spaces that aren't typically equipped to host large events. "With a lower guest count, brides have the option of saying "I Do" at their favorite local vineyard, brewery or restaurant, a romantic mountain inn, an art gallery, etc.," says Kristen Ley. "This allows couples to choose a ceremony and/or reception spot that better reflects who they are as a couple, rather than the sometimes cookie-cutter feel that larger wedding venues produce."
You'll have more time with guests. By hosting an intimate wedding, you guarantee that you will see everyone that night and you are celebrating with truly your closest family and friends. "I've worked on weddings of over 500 people and there is no way to work a room that size and say hello to all your guests,” says Randolph. “So why not make the wedding smaller and be able to speak with everyone who has come to celebrate?"
It's easier to have a destination wedding. Travel somewhere you've always wanted and invite your nearest and dearest, says Event Designer Francesca DiSalvo-Follmer. "Enjoy a welcome dinner instead of a rehearsal dinner and a post wedding brunch with activities planned for the rest of the weekend. It's much more cost effective for 10-20 instead of 100."
You'll remember the day. "Large weddings are beautiful, exuberant events, but we frequently hear from our brides that everything they worked on for months and months was just a blur," says Wieber. "A small wedding allows you to focus on the details, hear all the little jokes amongst your guests, spend quiet time with your mother--you will truly experience the day."
You can plan towards other goals. You can move towards your dream of owning your own house. Pay off your student loans and go out to eat more often. Buy a new car. Most marital arguments--particularly in a young marriage-center on money. Take those issues off the table, and put your money where your future is.