When I was pregnant, I fantasized about being a SAHM. I dreamed about all the fun ways I would spend my days with my little girl and all the amazing things we’d do. Well, that didn’t happen. In part because I needed to work for the money, but I also really missed working. After 3 months of maternity leave, it was hard for me to go back to work, but when I eventually got into the groove, I liked being a working mom.
Oddly, though, as my daughter has gotten older–she’s 2–it’s been harder and harder for me to leave her every morning. Just as I’m leaving for work every day she says, “Where are you going?” I explain that I’m going to work and then the “Whys” begin. It eventually ends with her saying “No, stay home and play with me” and me promising to bring her a surprise after work just so I can get out of the door.
Which leads me to my question. I don’t bring her a gift every single day, but I do typically bring some little trinket home for my daughter 3-4 days out of the work week. Whether it’s a new cup or a little stuffed animal or even a bag of chips, she is beginning to ask, “Where’s my surprise?” as soon as I walk in the door. If I don’t happen to have one, she doesn’t throw a huge fit, but I’m wondering if I’m setting a bad pattern. Am I spoiling her?
I have a pretty hippy dippy doctor and she doesn’t believe children can be spoiled, only loved. So I am putting it out there to the rest of you: if you give a 2-year-old gifts almost every day, is he/she bound to be a spoiled brat? Share your thoughts in the comments.
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