Ask A Newlywed: 5 Tips For Staying Calm On Your Wedding Day

August 20, 2011 by Justine Schwartz
shefinds | Weddings

It’s Kim Kardashian’s wedding today, and we’re sure she’s nervous, excited, overwhelmed (or all of the above) right now. Staying calm and focused on the day of your wedding is key — you want to remember and cherish this time because it goes by so quickly. As a newlywed, I’ve been there, and have 5 key tips to share with Kimmy — and you:

1. Surround yourself with happy people.

If any members of your bridal party or family are particularly negative (read: bitchy) schedule them for the last hair/makeup appointment so they arrive as late in the day as possible. Keep best friends, supportive sisters and any of your favorite people close.

2. Have a dance party — or two.

Before the day I created a playlist of pump-up music and put it on blast throughout the house in the last few hours before heading to the church. Whenever the mood struck us, my girls and I would bust out our moves (thank you, Kesha). The music and the dance party kept the vibe light and fun.

3. Have a sleepover with your bestie the night before.

My best friend and MOH Jamie slept in my room the night before. We stayed up talking, fell asleep to a romantic comedy, and woke up like kids on Christmas morning. If you prefer to be alone, do your thing, but I suggest having a close friend there (to get excited with and talk you through any emotions in the final hours).

4. Text with your hubby-to-be.

My husband is my best friend, so getting little words of encouragement from him throughout the day kept me calm and focused. Some couples swap heartfelt handwritten letters, but in this day and age sweet texts will do the trick, too. Just don’t MMS any photos of the dress or your hair and makeup — some things are still sacred!

5. Say “Thank you” and mean it.

Don’t forget to thank your parents and close friends for all their financial and emotional support — they’ll appreciate it and it keeps the positive vibes flowing. Never underestimate the power of good manners — your dad (or whoever’s footing the bill) is about to cut the biggest checks of their life today. “Thank you,” goes a long way.

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