The wedding ceremony might seem like the most straight-forward, cut and dry part of the wedding--but that's just not the case. It's actually a very important event that can vary significantly from couple to couple, venue to venue. Everything from the music choice to the vows, the time of day, bridal party and theme, can mean the difference between a ceremony that causes guests to rejoice and feel the love of the occasion--or to just be plain bored. More importantly, the experience can vary for the couple: a well-planned ceremony will be emotional and joyous--not awkward or nerve-wracking. You want to feel at ease and feel the joy of the day.
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Being focused on each other.
While it's important to take one look around the room during your ceremony to take it all in--for the most part you should keep your gaze locked on each other. This moment is about your union, your coming together as a couple. You should only have eyes for one another (literally and figuratively!). Don't look at the officiant unless he or she asks you to. Don't get too distracted by flower girls or bridesmaids or your parents, even. There will be short moments to look at others, but bring your eyes back to each other. Your guests will feel the intensity and love, too--in a good way. You can greet guests after, they don't expect you to waive or say hi to them in the pews during the ceremony.
Incorporating family traditions
If you don't bring your family's traditions, beliefs and background into your wedding, you will certainly regret it (if you're still aligned with those beliefs, of course). Incorporating your heritage will give significance to your ceremony that you and members of your family will cherish on the wedding day and for years to come. If your family is conservative but you're not, consider weaving in subtle aspects of their religion, like a single song or reading. It's a nod to how you were raised and all the aspects of your upbringing that brought you to this moment.
A good kiss!
If you don't embrace and share a good, loving kiss when the officiant pronounces you man and wife (or wife and wife), you'll regret it. For one, it makes for a great photo. Secondly, it's a memory! Don't give an awkward peck--physically embrace at the moment of your union. My husband and I high fived before kissing--it was a nod to our playful relationship that I still smile when I think about today.
Not having lighter moments
Love is a joyful emotion--and the ceremony should reflect that. Keep the tone from becoming too serious by infusing lighter moments, such as jokes by the officiant (they usually have a few up their sleeve), an inside joke during your vows or readings, or an upbeat song choice.
Not getting the "just married" shot
As soon as you kiss, it's time to head back down the aisle. Don't forget to keep your chin up and smile so your photographer can get a good shot! I can't tell you how many couples miss this moment because one or the other is looking down. This is the picture you'll want to frame and keep *forever*.