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10 Things You Need To Talk To Your Fiancé About BEFORE You Tie The Knot

January 9, 2018 by Linda DiProperzio
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Believe it or not, there is more to talk about that just wedding planning once you get engaged. In fact, some of the most important conversations you'll have as a couple should happen in the months before the big day. Here are 10 topics you definitely want to cover before you both say I do.

 

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Bank statement

Your Financial Situation

Money is the number one cause of problems in a relationship, so make sure you're both completely upfront about your financial situation -- credit card debt, student loans, savings, etc. -- before you say I do. It will be easier to set realistic goals, such as paying for the wedding and buying a home, if you're each honest about your money issues from the beginning.

Map

Where You Will Live

You don't want to find out after the vows that one of you has dreams of moving to another state, or even country, in the future, while the other wants to set down roots close to family and friends.

House

Buying A Home

Many couples want to buy a home after they are married, so talk about the details. Do you want to buy before or right after the wedding? How much do you want to spend? Where do you want to look? These are all important things you need to discuss. 

Kids

Starting A Family

Hopefully, the topic of kids came up before he popped the question. If you've agreed to start a family after the wedding, don't forget to also talk about the timeline on getting started. Ask your fiancé how many children they want to have, who will watch them if you're both going to work full-time, etc.

Church

Religion

This is especially important if you're different religions. While it might not be an issue now, it can cause problems once children come into the picture. And even if you are the same religion, that doesn't mean both of you are committed to raising your kids in that faith or making it an important part of their lives.

Checkbook

Paying The Bills

How will you handle incoming bills once you're married? Will one person take the lead to pay for utilities, insurance, home repairs and the like? Or, maybe you'll decide to sit down together once a month to go over everything?

Man doing dishes

Splitting The Household Chores

You should both be taking on household responsibilities. Figuring out who will do what ahead of time will probably save a lot of arguing later on.

Family at holiday

Splitting The Holidays

Holidays can cause a lot of stress for newlyweds. After all, both sets of parents will probably want you with them for these special occasions. Figure out how you're going to split holidays in advance (and be fair!), and then let the moms know before the day comes. It's important that they both know you're on the same page about this issue so no one's feelings are hurt. 

Girls Night Out

Time With Friends

Don't assume you're both on the same page when it comes to spending time with friends. In fact, one might just assume that you'll be doing more couple-focused things once you tie the knot.

Man and woman talking

Keeping In Touch With Exes

Are you both okay with the other remaining friendly with exes? While one of you might be more laid back about this, the other could have some serious issues with it.

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