Full disclosure: I’m very close with my 6-year-old daughter. Some people would argue probably too close. But being that I spend almost every moment I’m not working with her, it’s really not all that surprising. And quite frankly, I don’t care what other people think. She may only be 6, but I love that little girl more than anyone in the world. And I tell her that–often.
But recently, while talking about how her mom loves her more than “anyone else in the world,” my daughter encountered a friend who said she didn’t know if her mom loved her the most in the whole wide world and my daughter was genuinely upset for her friend. Please don’t misunderstand–I’m 100% positive this little girl’s mom loves her very much, but I’m guessing the child has siblings or a father in the household so her family doesn’t use the same love language that my daughter and I do. I explained this to my daughter and how you can love people differently, not more or less and finally she dropped the issues. But I was left wondering–do most parents love their children more than anyone else in the world? More than their spouse? More than their parents? More than their siblings?
For me, there isn’t really a question. I’m no longer in a relationship with my daughter’s father, so obviously I love her more than him. I love my brother, but we aren’t that close so there’s that. And yes, I genuinely love my parents with all my heart, but I can fathom things my parents could do that would make me separate myself from them–I can’t with my daughter.
So here’s the question for all you moms out there–can you honestly say you love your child more than anyone else in the world? Do you think it’s important for a child to hear and/or feel that? Or is love what ultimately matters, not how much or in relation to other people? Share your thoughts in the comments.