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Everything You Need To Know About Writing And Sending Wedding Thank You Notes

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October 21, 2015

Just because the wedding day has come and gone doesn’t mean your wedding-related tasks are over. Guests came to celebrate your big day with you (and hopefully gave you and your groom a nice gift!) so it’s time to sit down and write those thank you notes.

Here are all of the etiquette rules you need to know.

You do not have one year. Contrary to what you might have heard, couples don’t have one year to send out their thank you notes. Waiting that long will leave guests assuming you forgot or are simply not sending a thank you at all, and then you risk offending people. Instead, write and mail out those notes within three months of the wedding day. Of course, you should also send notes to bridal shower guests, preferably no later than one month after that event.

It must be handwritten. Those cards with a generic printed thank you message that you can order online–don’t do it. Guests traveled, spent money on attire and gifts and made it a point to be there for the most important day of your lives. That deserves a handwritten note.

Choose the right stationery. Write your notes on quality stationery. If you use a monogram, make sure it reflects your married name. And if you want to include a wedding photo, be sure your photographer is aware of your time frame well before you hit that three-month mark.

Make it personal. Mention the specific gift in the thank you note (“We just love the crystal vase and will display it in our living room.”), or if you’ve been given money, tell them what you plan to do with it (“We’ll be putting it the bank to save for our first house!”).

Remember your bridal party. Even if you gave your maids and groomsmen a beautiful gift at the rehearsal dinner, you should still send them thank you notes for being a part of your special day. And don’t forget both sets of parents, too–especially if they helped pay for the affair!

Don’t try to do it all in one day. This can be a tiring and tedious task, so don’t try to do it all in one sitting. You want to make sure every guest gets a neatly-written, from-the-heart note, and you can’t pull that off if you’re tired, your hand is cramping and you’re bored.

Be sure to check out 9 things the maid of honor should do on the wedding day and 6 things you should do before putting on your wedding dress.

 

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