Enter to win a free product from Dr.Brandt

*By entering to win, you agree to receive future emails from Dr.Brandt and SheFinds.


How To Feel Happier & More Relaxed--Even If You're Really Busy

April 28, 2015 by Justine Schwartz
shefinds | Style

As a working mother I often feel as though I am being pulled in a million different directions. And with a 1-year-old at home in Connecticut and a demanding (but highly rewarding!) job in New York City, I am quite literally caught between two worlds. But I wouldn’t have it any other way–both aspects of my life, work and home, are sources of joy and provide deep feelings of accomplishment on a daily basis. The truth is, it’s just difficult to take moment for myself sometimes. I often feel like I should be doing something for someone else rather than myself. Getting a mani when I should be planning my daughter’s birthday party feels selfish and wrong. Raise your hand if you know exactly what I’m talking about. It’s so hard!

It’s necessary, though. According to a recent survey conducted by T.J.Maxx, women who carve out this “me time” are happier, more balanced and more relaxed. For most women (56%), that time is spent with family and loved ones, while “quiet time alone” (20%) and “fitness” (11%) were also reported.

Stealing away these moments affects us on a chemical level, according to an expert affiliated with T.J.Maxx.  “When I work with women I get them to think about their ‘me’ moment – that thing amid all the daily chaos that makes them truly happy,” life coach and author Christine Hassler explains. “These moments trigger the part of our brain that releases serotonin and makes us feel happier and positive.”

So, it’s actually not necessary to get pedicures once a week or become a lady who lunches to feel happy and relaxed (although that does sound wonderful!). More “everyday” moments like making dinner with your husband or sneaking in a 20-minute power walk at lunch can serve to recharge us.

On a personal level, this moment for me is when I’m dashing through Grand Central at the end of my work day, running to catch my train home . It sounds crazy–but I love it. I pop in my headphones, turn on Spotify radio and reflect on my work day. I start getting really excited about seeing my daughter and husband and thinking about what we’ll make for dinner. Even as binkies and sippy cups spill out of my bag as I search for my train pass, I feel a sense of excitement and calm. By the time I’m on the train, I’m already in a better mood.

my moment

My moment–yes, in Grand Central of all places!

So, what’s your moment? Christine shared some tips for carving out this time and making more of it:

Be selfish: Women tend to put everything and everyone first. They need to learn the power of saying “no” to external demands so they can say “yes” to the moments they treasure.

Make the time: We all have busy schedules, so schedule your moment to make sure it happens. It should be something you look forward to each day rather than another “to-do.”

Accessorize your moment: Whether it’s having the high quality cookware for family dinner night or that designer spring dress for brunch with friends, it’s important to have the tools that put a personal stamp on your moment. T.J.Maxx helps women express what matters most by providing an incredible selection of high quality and brand name items that facilitate and personalize any moment.

There’s no one size fits all: Creativity is a female superpower! Come up with a unique way to fit what matters most into your day. Maybe that means yoga in bed to get in your workout or a candlelit dinner on the couch for a casual date night.

Life is not an Instagram photo: Remind yourself that social media is other people’s highlight reel not their behind the scenes. Be you in every moment and make your moment work on your terms. Transform comparison into inspiration – whatever you see in someone else, use it as fuel to inspire you own unique ideas.

Be in the “moment”: Being present in a moment allows us to feel balanced because thoughts about the future often create anxiety. Taking a few deep breaths throughout the day is a simple, yet effective way to come back to the now.


These Are The Best Nude Heels, According To Thousands Of Customer Reviews

April 19, 2018 by Jessica Harrington
These are essential.


The Super Comfortable Sneakers Everyone Will Be Wearing This Spring

April 18, 2018 by Jessica Harrington
We're never taking these off.


The Instagram-Famous One-Shoulder Bathing Suits That Will Be Everywhere This Summer

April 17, 2018 by Jessica Harrington
Who's ready for a photo op?


These Are The 8 Best Comfortable Sandals For Walking In--& They're Super Cute

April 17, 2018 by Lisa Fogarty
You can rock these all summer long!


The Super Flattering Dress Celebs Swear By For Spring--It's Under $100!

April 17, 2018 by Jessica Harrington
It's on sale right now for $188!


The Bizarre Footwear Trend That’s Going To Be Everywhere This Summer

April 17, 2018 by Jessica Harrington
Can you rock them?


8 Shoes That Will Make Any Outfit Look 10 Times Cooler

April 17, 2018 by Emily Belfiore
*Buys Every Pair*


The Spring Dress Everyone Wants Is On Sale For Less Than $30

April 16, 2018 by Jessica Harrington
Get them before they sell out.


The Loafers Everyone Is Already Buying For Spring

April 16, 2018 by Jessica Harrington
They're so chic!


We Found The Most Comfortable Heels In The World At Nordstrom

April 16, 2018 by Emily Belfiore
*Buys One Of Each*


We Found The Most Comfortable Dress In The World At Nordstrom

April 15, 2018 by Jessica Harrington
*Buys one of every color*


The One Accessory You Should Buy For Spring, According To Style Bloggers

April 14, 2018 by Jessica Harrington
We NEED these.


UPDATE: The Hunter For Target Is Here--Except The Rain Boots!

April 14, 2018 by Jessica Harrington
This collection is epic.