How To Not Let Yourself Go When You're In Love (Hey, It Happens)

August 29, 2019 by Jeanine Edwards
shefinds | Fitness

Remember that giddy feeling when you matched on the app? And then how easy it was to message back and forth for days without it ever feeling weird or forced? And then when you finally went on your first date, that chemistry? Now, it’s been months and you’re in love and everything feels oh so right.

Except, maybe your pants don’t fit as well as they used to. Or that dress you wore on your first date is a bit tighter than you remember. We’ll say it so you don’t have to: you’re in love and you’re letting yourself go. Yikes! All you can think is, how not get fat in a relationship?!

First things first, no shame! Being in love is a totally wonderful and awesome feeling that everyone in the world should be lucky enough to experience. That said, feeling great about being love shouldn’t make you feel bad about your body.

Before we get into the hows of preventing weight gain while in a relationship, let’s first look at the whys. Why is it so common to put on a few pounds when you’re in love? That’s easy… because you’re so busy being in love to think about or worry about anything else! Why go to the gym or an exercise class when you could be texting with your boo? Why walk to your partner’s apartment when you could take an Uber and get there to see him/her sooner? Why get all sweaty working out together when you could be feeding each other pasta or ice cream? Why go for a late night jog together when you could be snuggled up on the couch with Netflix? You see where we’re going?

When you’re so consumed with enjoying and getting to know another person, it can be hard to make time for anything else (like exercising). It can also be difficult to smart decisions (like eating healthy) because you’re so focused on feeling good and pleasing your new love interest.

So, how to not get fat in a relationship?

Sorry to be blunt, but that’s the question we all want answers to, right? Lucky for you, there’s no magic or wizardry involved. It’s actually totally simple to maintain a healthy lifestyle while falling madly, deeply and passionately in love. Here are a few things to try:

– Exercise Together: If you can’t bear the thought of spending too much time away from your new love, make exercising a thing you do together. Even if the idea of getting all gross and sweaty with your new partner makes you initially a bit nervous, there’s always the showering together afterwards that will be fun, eh?

– Eat Mindfully Together: Rather than go out to dinner for every date night, consider spending a few nights each week at home and cooking a healthy, balanced meal with your mate. Cooking your own meals not only allows you to control what you’re consuming, but it’s also a really nice bonding opportunity for you and your new love.

– Spend Some Time Apart: The horror, I know! But believe it or not, some time apart is actually totally healthy and good for any relationship, but definitely a new one. It’s important to not completely lose yourself in the sometimes all-consuming passion of a new relationship, so take some time for yourself to focus on self-care by doing activities like yoga and meditation that are focused on just you.

– Get Outside Help: If you need a little extra help when it comes to making healthy, sustainable lifestyle choices, consider signing up for a program like Noom. It’s a personalized behavior change program that is all about empowering you to change your thinking and behaviors for long-term, sustained benefits. Instead of simply telling you what and when to eat or how often to exercise, Noom focuses on changing patterns of thinking, habits and behavior so you see results for the rest of your life, not just for a month or two. When you sign up with Noom, you get matched with a personal coach that helps support and guide you on your journey, plus you can subscribe to their newsletter and visit their blog for even more healthy-living and wellness tips and tricks. Honestly, it’s one of the best online weight loss programs out there right now.

The editors at SheFinds created this article in partnership with Noom.


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Jeanine Edwards is a writer and editor covering fashion, beauty and shopping. She never misses a sale and is committed to good skincare. Prior to joining the SheFinds team, Jeanine worked at XO Group and InStyle. You can reach Jeanine at [email protected]


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