How To Say 'Yes' More At Work Without Losing Your Sanity

October 7, 2016 by Justine Schwartz
shefinds | Style

Four expert tips from Bruce Eckfeldt, professional coach and founder of Eckfeldt & Associates, for SHEfinds: 

Say “Yes, And.” Most people say no at work because they are afraid of the extra workload. If a manager is asking you to do something it’s because it’s important. Instead of saying “No,” say “Yes, and can you help me figure out what to remove/reduce to make it fit?”

Ask your boss to help you prioritize. A good boss will help you prioritize to make sure your always working on the most valuable task. Ask them to take something less important off your plate.

READ MORE: How To Have A Better Relationship With Your Boss

Don’t be afraid of failure. Another reason why people tend to say “no” is because something is too risky and they’re worried about failure. While you don’t want to bet the farm, taking calculated risks is part of business. Instead, say “yes” to learning by taking well-measured risks that you can learn from. And make this risk well-known to your boss. A good boss will understand and encourage you to try new things even if they might fail. Bill Gates was famous for encouraging “worthy failure,” which leads to insight and learning. Your boss should too.

Get out of your comfort zone. The biggest reason you should say yes more is that you want to grow and develop your skills and expand your experiences. If your not growing, you’re shrinking. Saying yes more will make sure you’re out of your comfort zone and in your “learning zone” and pushing yourself to be better, faster.

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Editorial Director

Justine Schwartz is a veteran women's lifestyle editor; she's written extensively about style & beauty tips, health advice and wedding planning for more than a decade. Her work has appeared in New York Magazine, Huffington Post and New York Weddings. Justine has been with SheFinds since 2010; you can reach her via email at [email protected]

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