“I’m sorry.” Two words that honestly have a lot of meaning when put together, but why do we throw them around like they mean nothing?! How many of you apologize when someone else bumps into you?! Or how many times have you found yourself telling someone you’re sorry for a mistake they made?! If you’re like me, then the answer is probably like 20 times a day… and if you’re not like me, then good for you! I’ve found myself apologizing to people when they don’t like their meal at a restaurant, and my friend has confessed that she even apologized to inanimate objects by mistake. Seriously, we need help with this…
So many of us excessively and unnecessarily apologize – and we’re sick of it! There’s no reason you should be saying sorry for things you straight up didn’t do. Apologizing too much can lead to a decreased sense of self, can send messages that you need verification for your actions, and kind of makes you look like a pushover tbh… #toughlove
So how do we get over this glitch in social etiquette that so many of us struggle with? We got some tips to help you realize when you’re over-apologizing, and hopefully help you kick the habit!
Listen. Listen to yourself. Determine whether or not the situation actually calls for an apology and if it doesn’t then don’t. say. it. It’s important to listen to yourself and if you find yourself apologizing in situations that just put you down, then you need to re-evaluate!
Be Honest With Yourself. Acknowledge how you’re feeling when you say sorry for something. If you feel like you’re just saying it to cover up how you really feel or are masking deeper emotions, verbalize that. You need to stick up for yourself, rather than constantly take the blame. If there’s something emotionally going on, talk to your friends or family about it!
Just Say No. Catch yourself! When you feel yourself about to apologize for something unnecessarily, stop yourself! You know yourself best, so when you feel the urge coming, make sure to evaluate the situation and try to think of a different response.
Change Your Vocab. There are so many other options for words that suffice in these types of situations. Try “excuse me” when someone bumps into you or offer someone help instead of just apologizing for their bad meal… There are so many other options!
For more tips on how to stop apologizing, check this out.
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