How To Tell If You're His Rebound Girl

August 11, 2015 by ashley kaylor
shefinds | Style

“The Rebound Girl.” The notorious phrase that we’re all aware of, yet wish we weren’t. I, myself have been a rebound girl, so I can tell you that yes, it’s not fun, and yes, it can be prevented. Whether you’re dating history can be explained in a flip book or a novel, we all carry some sort of baggage with us. In order to block the next rebound, step up your game and play close attention to my 5 telltale signs of being in a rebound relationship.

1. He Just Got Out of a Relationship

I’m going to get this one out of the way, as it’s the most obvious sign of rebound relationships. If the person you’re dating just got out of a 3 year relationship less than 3 months ago, he’s NOT ready to commit. No matter how hard you try. Breakups are nothing more than wounds, they need time to heal.

2. He’s More Physical Than Emotional

Rebound relationships are often very physical, with little focus on emotional connection. If you’re noticing that your time together is mostly spent under the sheets, then it may be time to come up for air.

3. He Never Asks How You’re Doing

One of the biggest attractions about being in a relationship is having someone to share your everyday “stuff” with. Perhaps it’s your new promotion, or maybe the new bar you discovered on your lunch break. Whatever it may be, it’s all relevant and important to you. However, if you find that you’re coming home to a full house with empty conversation, your beau may not care about your “relationship” in the way you’re hoping. Let his silence speak for itself.

4. He’s Still In Contact With His Ex

“We’re just friends.” “Oh Really? So that’s why your ex called at 3 AM asking for a place to crash?” Listen, no matter how cool and laid back your new beau is, there should be no reason his ex is still in the picture. When a man genuinely cares, the past stays in the past. His ex will be nothing more than a distant memory. Never let someone be your priority, when you’re only their option.

5. He’s Emotionless

If you’ve been dating someone for at least a few months, there’s bound to be some type of feelings involved…. even if it’s just a little jealousy. However, if you’re sensing that his feelings are cold and he’s unresponsive to your affection, you may be a rebound girl. Contrary to what you may think, men WILL invest their time and emotion into a monogamous relationship… if they’re ready. Make sure you’re getting back as much emotion as you put forth. Never settle for anything less than you deserve.


About the author: Ashley Kaylor is a professional matchmaker in New York City. Stay Connected On FB: Matchmaker of Love & Lifestyle or Follow her on Twitter @ashley_kaylor!

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