I’m not into the whole New Year’s resolution thing. But this year, I vowed to make one resolution, and one resolution only: be more mature. This decision came from a place of feeling like I’m too old to Seamless dinner every night, but too young to be seeing wedding hashtags take over my Instagram feed. It can actually be perfectly summed up by Buzzfeed‘s description of age 23 from the article “Every Year Of Your Twenties, Ranked From Worst To Best:”
Sorry, 23-year-olds, but this year is total sh*t. You’re a year or two removed from college and reaching a legal drinking age, but you’re not mature enough to have actually figured out what you want to do with your life. Drinking and partying is getting old, but you’re equally bored by staying home. Basically everything is terrible. Ask a bunch of over-30 people what the worst year of their twenties was and they will inevitably tell you that when they were 23, everything fell apart and they had no idea who they were anymore or WTF they were doing with themselves. Be strong, better years are coming.
Or more simply put by Blink 182, “Nobody likes you when you’re 23.”
So I decided to bring up the topic of matureness to my fellow 23-year-olds to get their opinion on the matter. After talking it over, I realized I’m not really longing to be a grown up. What I do want to be is more self-assured. I guess this is a form of maturity per se, but I do not plan on replacing my 23-year-old ways with that of a 35-year-old. I have to turn up and use emoji speak as much as I can while it’s still socially acceptable for my age!
So, if you’re a twentysomething with the same feelings as me, here are 7 things to do in the new year that will keep your youth, but also make you feel like you did something. (Isn’t that what us millennials are really all about?)
1) Say yes
Not to every single thing, but saying yes to something you might have not agreed to last year can change the course of your life. I know, dramatic. But think about it. Saying yes to a date with that dude who is soooo not your type might end up being not so bad. If anything, it’s an experience to learn from and recap with your besties. Plus you’ll never get the “what ifs?” if you go out on a limb and just say yes.
2) Don’t make crazy rules
From restrictions on spending (I’ll spend this much over the next three days to save money for a vacation I won’t end up taking), to eating limitations (I’m on that new diet where you only eat raisins for dinner), crazy rules are NOT the answer. Instead, just do what YOU want WHEN you want to. Once you have that approach, you’ll find that you don’t do the so called “bad stuff” as often, like eating dessert for dinner. Everything in moderation people.
3) Be spontaneous
Going along with the whole “saying yes” idea, try things that might be out of your norm. Don’t go out during the week but a friend asks you last minute to wingwoman with her on a Wednesday night? DO IT. Just try. Then you can really decide if going to sleep at 9pm on a weeknight is really what you like, or if you’re just doing it to be “responsible.” See, you can learn about yourself from taking chances and not holding back.
4) Don’t spend money on cheap things
This is probably my number one goal for 2015. Unless it’s really, really good, save your money for things you ACTUALLY want to spend on. You’ll find that buying more expensive things will actually have you spending less overall, because it will be better quality and last forever. No replacements necessary.
This year, I was guilty of buying one of the knock off rag & bone sweaters. It’s $20, HAND WASH ONLY (which I of course didn’t bother to find out before ripping off the tags) and started pilling after one wear. R u kidding me?? And do you know what my best fashion investment of 2014 was? A pair of REAL rag & bone jeans that I have worn 94230947293 times and still look en fuego.
5) Make mistakes now
As a twentysomething, time is running out on the “mistakes are OK” clock. I mean, nobody is perfect at any age, but at least in your twenties you still have that “I’m young and dumb” excuse.
6) Be alone
Not all day, err day, but learning how to be alone and accepting it is important. I used to actually love my alone time growing up. Then I lived in a house with five girls my junior and senior year of college and developed a legit fear of it. Now I try to do small things on my own, like shopping or getting a mani, to build up my alone tolerance. I haven’t worked up to a full-blown meal yet, but that is something I hope I can do in the future. Plus, once you get used to being alone, you won’t see it as a bad thing. And you’ll also enjoy the moments you aren’t alone so much more.
7) Stop trying
Didn’t someone famous say one time that things happen when you stop trying or something? Stop trying to find “the one.” Stop trying to grow up. Stop trying to get Kylie Jenner lips. It will all come naturally if and when it’s meant to be. And please, for the love of bae, stop trying to make “fleek” happen. It’s not going to happen.