The Pregnancy Chronicles... When Bad Doctors Happen to Good Moms

December 22, 2011 by Chido Samantha Mbavarira
shefinds | Kids

I could cry as I’m writing this. When I imagined being pregnant, I always thought it would be a joyous, wonderful experience full of peace and happiness about bringing a new life into the world. But in all of that, I also imagined a doctor who cared and who helped me through this time. So far, that hasn’t been the case for me at all.

At 9 weeks, my gynecologist’s office told me they no longer provided OB services, but they did have a doctor who came in to the practice on a weekly basis. He was essentially their acting OB. Now, a word on him. Let’s just say that he’s a highly regarded doctor in the DC area and the head of a very well known medical practice. I did my research and he seemed legit. We had our initial visit and he set up the blood work. But later that week I thought, “Well, just to be sure, I’d like to have a couple of tests added. Can’t be that hard to add two small tests!”

I called for two weeks and his office never got back to me. When I did, finally, get someone there, I had to convince her that Tay Sachs was a real disorder.

“I’ve never heard of it,” she said.

She called me back twice to get the spelling, but then told me she was going to just cancel all my blood work, because I was too late for my first trimester tests.

“You’ll just have to wait until your second trimester,” she told me.

My husband and I rushed to get the blood tests done before she could cancel them, and the next day my doctor called.

“I got a strange note from my office. What’s going on?” he asked.

“You mean, why have I been calling for two weeks, but nobody got back to me? Or why doesn’t your office staff know what tests a pregnant woman should be getting?”

Snarky, I know.

I had the blood work done, but not without further fiascos at the hospital. I left there feeling that nobody cared about my health or the health of my baby. I felt like one more product on the production line of the hospital. Sure, maybe my hormones are getting the better of me, but I have never felt so much like nobody knew, or really cared, about what was going on.

I guess it’s time to look for a new OB. Any suggestions on switching OBs while pregnant?

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