These Are The Four Signs That You're In A Situationship

September 28, 2015 by ashley kaylor
shefinds | Style

First things first, what is a “situationship”? It is basically a pseudo-relationship. It looks like a relationship and feels like a relationship. You may even find yourself telling your friends that you are in fact in a full-blown relationship.

But the truth is, you’re not. You’re confusing this with casual dating.

Coming from experience, situationships are hopeful in the beginning. You’ve finally found someone to fulfill your needs with the potential of a promising future. But suddenly it all comes to an end when you realize your perfect man has another agenda, and that his agenda doesn’t line up with what you truly want or deserve.

If you don’t want to find yourself here, these are what I consider the TOP four signs that you’re in a “situationship.”

1. He’s just a cuddle buddy

This is the worst kind of situationship. Why? Because you’re staying in the relationship for two reasons: loneliness and comfort. As nice as this might feel right now, it doesn’t hold any foundation in a progressing relationship. You’re only prolonging the inevitable. My advice is to buy a body pillow… it’ll last longer.

2. Your “relationship” is on the road to nowhere.

“What are we?” The answer is, if you even have to ask yourself this question, you’re in a situationship. If you don’t have a title or a clear direction, your future looks bleak. Do yourself a favor and stop asking questions that you already know the answer to. My advice is to get back on the map and avoid any tempting detours.

3. He’s a huge fan of three’s company.

“Come and bring your HOT friends with you.” Sound familiar? This is a common response in a “situationship.” In short, your bae doesn’t want the responsibility of giving you all of his attention, nor does he want you to get the “wrong idea” when introducing you to his friends. That would be crazy, (insert sigh). Remember, two’s a company… three’s a crowd.

4. He’s the text me type of guy.

This relationship only exists through text, social media or basically any type of communication that doesn’t require face-to-face interaction (and no Facetime doesn’t count). If your relationship is defined by technology, you’re in a “situationship.” A real relationship will show itself through actions, not emojis.

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About the author: Ashley Kaylor is a professional matchmaker in New York City. Stay Connected On FB: Matchmaker of Love & Lifestyle or Follow her on Twitter @ashley_kaylor!

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