Dating. For some women, just hearing (or reading) the word sends a shiver of anxiety–or maybe even panic!–down their spine. First, there are all the hurdles related to actually getting a date: creating an online profile, choosing the right photos, getting the back and forth banter just right. We know it’s not easy. Then, of course, there’s the actual date itself. What do you wear? What will you talk about? What if things get awkward?
If the mere act of reading that first paragraph has your stomach in knots about the prospect of dating, we have one word for you: relax! Whether you’re newly single or you’ve finally worked up the nerve to put yourself out there, it’s important to remember that dating can actually be fun. (Yes, really!) The key is to remember that you actually have more control than you think and it’s okay to use it.
What to wear on a blind date?
One of the most common questions women have when thinking about dating? What to wear on a blind date. It seems a bit silly, given that we all want a partner that likes us for more than our outward appearance. Yet we know better than most that what you’re wearing can have a huge impact on how you feel and present yourself to others. That’s why the first answer we always we give whenever anyone writes in to ask what to wear on a blind date is not a piece of clothing. It’s confidence. Let that sink in for a minute.
Sure, some people will have a preference for a woman in a short dress or skinny jeans, but what you’re wearing on the outside won’t get your very far if you’re not feeling great about yourself on the inside. Believe it or not, potential mates like–and are really attracted to–people who are confident and feel good about themselves. Those feelings of self-love and confidence make others want to stick around and get to know more about you.
It’s important to take a quick pause here and clarify that confidence is quite different than cockiness or arrogance. We’re not suggesting you show up to a blind date thinking you’re better than everyone else or that other people are beneath you. Rather, it’s important that you feel like you’re a person worth someone else’s time and attention because you’re wonderful in all your own unique and special ways.
Okay, but really, what to wear on a blind date?
Given that SheFinds is a women’s lifestyle site, we’re not going to leave you hanging on what to actually wear on a blind date. There’s no right or wrong answer, but here are a few no-fail options:
A Wrap Dress: This silhouette is universally flattering on all women and a perfect option for a blind date because it shows a bit of cleavage and also creates the illusion of curves no matter your body type.
Skinny Jeans + A Bodysuit: If your blind date will be somewhere a bit more casual and laid back, body-hugging skinny jeans are a great option. Pair them with a bodysuit that reveals just a bit of skin up top.
Something Red: Your inclination may be to wear black, but take our word for it on this one; red is the way to go. It’s a great color for grabbing people’s attention and it automatically gives people the impression that you’re not afraid for all eyes to be on you. Whether a red dress or a red tank with skinny jeans, be bold and wear red!
How to impress a guy on a blind date
Now that you’ve got some outfit ideas to look your best on a blind date, we’ll leave you with one last important tip on what to wear on a blind date. Remember how we said confidence is key? Well we recognize that feeling confident is sometimes a lot easier said than done. Whether you’re feeling hurt by a recent break-up or you’re not loving your body at the moment, building up the confidence to impress a guy on a blind date can be tough. If you’re feeling like you’re lacking a bit in the confidence department, try these tips:
– Mantras + Self-Affirmations: The easiest way to start building self-confidence is to pour positivity into yourself. Something as small as smiling at yourself in the mirror while you’re brushing your teeth or putting your hand to your heart and showing your body gratitude can have a huge impact on how you feel about yourself.
– Meditation: Guided meditations can really work wonders when it comes to quieting your mind and learning to love and appreciate your body and all that it does. There are tons of great options online and in the App stores.
– Personal Coaching: If you’d rather not go it alone, online programs like Noom that are grounded in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy are highly effective at not only changing patterns of thinking and behavior, but also implementing sustainable lifestyle changes. That means you won’t just see results for a few weeks; you’ll see results for the rest of your life. How is that possible? Rather than focusing on one small part of the weight loss process (what you eat), Noom looks at your lifestyle as a whole. From there, you’re matched with a personal coach that will work with you one on one to address and adjust habits and behaviors that are holding you back from living your best, healthy life. It’s a game-changing new approach to weight loss and wellness because, well, it really works!
Now that you know what to wear on a blind date and how to impress a guy on a blind date with killer confidence, all that’s left is to do it! Good luck girl, you got this!
The editors at SheFinds created this article in partnership with Noom.