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There is so much to do when planning the perfect wedding, but there’s no rule that says the bride has to do it all on her own. Believe it or not, the groom is perfectly capable of taking on some wedding-related tasks to take the pressure off of you. Here are 11 you can feel free to pass to him. Trust us, he can handle it!
Negotiating with vendors. Yes, women can be great negotiators, but you have enough on your plate without haggling over prices with all of your wedding vendors. So let your groom take over this stress-inducing task and hopefully he can save you some money.
Researching bands & DJs. While you definitely want to be involved in the final decision--and what songs will be played at the event--you can let your fiancé narrow down that long list to a few contenders.
Figuring out the bar menu. What alcohol will be served at the wedding can be a very big deal to many grooms, so he can take the lead on this--especially if he considers himself a beer or wine connoisseur.
Choosing the transportation. What man doesn’t love looking at and riding in cool cars? Unless you’re worried he is going to expect you to hop on a Harley after the ceremony, you can probably trust him with this one.
Setting up the wedding website. A website is a great way to keep guest in the loop about wedding plans. Ask your groom to set it up (it is super easy with templates on sites like MyWedding.com and WeddingWire.com) and keep it updated with hotel availability, transportation options, etc.).
Seating his side of the guest list. He probably knows best who gets along (and who doesn’t) with whom in his family and circle of friends, and it makes more sense for him to figure out where to seat all of them. And, hey, if anyone complains about their table assignment, simply point them in the direction of your groom!
Planning activities for out-of-town guests. Guys typically want to participate in the fun parts of wedding planning, and what’s better than putting together some fun things for your guests to do while they’re in town? He can also print out an itinerary for the welcome baskets and help put them together.
Picking out the groom’s cake. If you’re having one at the reception or rehearsal dinner, let your fiancé pick out what he wants. The wedding cake is traditionally more for the bride anyway, so if he wants a groom’s cake in the shape of a giant armadillo (that’s for the Steel Magnolias fans out there) or the Yankees logo, just go with it.
Buying his groomsmen's gifts.These are likely his nearest and dearest family and friends, and he should know what they would like.
Figuring out what to wear. If you fear your fiancé would show up in a powder blue tux or in his favorite football jersey, then by all means accompany him to the tux shop. But if he is usually a pretty sharp dresser, you can let him pick out his own clothes for the wedding like a big boy.
Keeping his mom under control. Your future MIL might get a little too excited about being involved in the wedding planning. If this happens, her son should be the one to step in and say something. If you can help it, you don’t want to start your marriage off on a bad foot with your husband’s mom.
