How To Involve Your Mother And Mother-In-Law In The Bachelorette Party Festivities

April 12, 2016 by Linda DiProperzio
shefinds | Weddings

Your bachelorette party is the perfect time to get your best girls together to celebrate your last days of being single. And if you happen to be especially close with your mom or future mother-in-law (or both), you might want to include them in the festivities. Here’s how to do it without any awkward situations or hurt feelings.

Figure out what you want. If you’re going for a more low-key bachelorette–dinner out, cooking class, spa day, etc.–then by all means invite whoever you want. But if you’re planning on getting a little crazy at some point, then you might want to consider whether you really want them there.

Ask them about their expectations. While some moms and future MILs would love the chance to join you and your girlfriends for a night out, others might want to skip the festivities altogether because they feel it’s not an event for a lady of a certain age! Everyone also has their own threshold on what they think is “acceptable” behavior, so if either one of them is going to feel uncomfortable, then it’s better to give them a pass on the night.

Divide the night into two parts. You can have the best of both worlds at your bachelorette. Simply divide the event into two parts, such as going out to a nice dinner earlier in the night and then hitting the bar/club later on after your mom and MIL have said their good byes.

Choose activities that don’t involve alcohol. It’s often the heavy drinking that can create some uncomfortable situations (and not just for the older ladies in the crowd). If you’d rather skip the drinking altogether, you can always plan a bachelorette party that doesn’t involve alcohol.

Schedule a separate celebration. You can always have two bachelorette events—one with your friends where you can do whatever you want and a calmer get-together with your mom, MIL, aunts and even younger female family members who can’t drink yet but still want to find a way to celebrate with you.

Be sure to check out how to make the most of your maid of honor and how to plan the wedding after party.

[Photo: Barefoot Blonde]





Linda DiProperzio is a weddings expert and freelance writer based in New York.

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