The Dos And Donts Of Planning A Bridal Shower

April 15, 2019 by Linda DiProperzio
shefinds | Weddings

If you’re taking on the task of planning the bridal shower, you want to make sure you do it right. There’s no need to stress, though, because we have all of the dos and don’ts of planning to make sure this important event is a smashing success.

Do ask for the bride’s input. The bride might have a specific idea or even theme for her shower, so you want to ask her what she’d like for the event. After all, it’s her day and you want her to be happy.

Don’t try to do it all on your own. Throwing any type of wedding-related event can be super stressful, so enlist the help of other members of the bridal party to help you plan (and pay) for the shower. You should also talk to the bride’s mom and future MIL–they will hopefully want to help out, too.

Do pick a date early. You want to make sure all VIPs can attend, so pick a date ASAP (usually 2-3 months before the wedding) and spread the word. And be sure to ask the bride for a guest list so you know you’re including the right people.

Don’t invite people who aren’t attending the wedding. It’s just bad etiquette.

Do send paper invites. While it might be easier (and cheaper) to send out an email invite, this is one of those events that warrants a paper invitation. And the bride will likely want to keep it as a memento for years to come.

Don’t put the registry info on it. Details on where the bride is registered should be on a separate insert that will go into the envelope with the invitation (most stores will even provide them to you free of charge).

Do have plenty of food and drinks. Guests will need something to eat and drink. You don’t need to have a sit-down meal or even a ton of food. Some bite-sized appetizers, dessert and a signature cocktail (or two) is more than enough.

Don’t spend too much money. You don’t need to go into debt throwing this shower. You can host a beautiful party without spending a fortune by choosing DIY options, shopping wholesale, scouring bargain sites, etc.

Do plan some activities for the party. You need to keep guests entertained and engaged with one another. The perfect way to do that is through a planned activity, such as 7 Bridal Shower Games that Aren’t Lame and 10 Bridal Shower Games So Fun The Groom Will Want To Come.

Don’t make them raunchy. The bride’s older relatives will most likely be in attendance, and you don’t want to risk

embarrassing or offending anyone.

For more wedding tips, check out 11 wedding tasks your groom can do, 7 things you should do on the way to the wedding ceremony and 16 wedding photographers with gorgeous inspo shots.

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Linda DiProperzio is a weddings expert and freelance writer based in New York.

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