While the bride will most likely be doing the bulk of the wedding prep and planning, there are quite a few tasks that the groom needs to complete before the big day. To make sure your fiancé stays on track, show him this timeline so he checks off everything on his to-do list before saying I Do.
12 Months Before
– Choose the best man and groomsmen: Give the groom’s side of the wedding party as much notice as possible so they know you want them to play a special role in your day.
– Look at registry items: There might be a few household items that are important to your groom, so once you decide on the stores or sites, let him check out what they have either in the store or online.
– Check out entertainment: Guys tend to have a keen interest in the music that will be played during the reception. He can research the music and narrow it down to a few choices that you can then check out together.
9 Months Before
– Create a guest list: The groom–and his parents–should put the guest list together for their side of the family and friends.
– Plan the honeymoon: While you’ll obviously decide together where to go, he can take some of the planning stress off your shoulders by taking over the bulk of the honeymoon arrangements.
6 Months Before
– Book the rehearsal venue: The groom’s family traditionally plans and pays for the rehearsal dinner, so he can help his parents coordinate this.
– Handle the transportation: Typically, guys care more about what kind of car they’re riding in, so have him take the lead in booking the transportation.
3 Months Before
– Figure out his wardrobe: This is one thing that your groom should be able to decide for himself–what he and his groomsmen will be wearing. He can take charge of making sure all of his guys get measured for their tuxes or suits on time.
– Shop for wedding rings: Choosing your respective wedding bands together is one of the best planning to-dos.
– Figure out the first dance: If you’re planning a choreographed dance or need lessons before the big day, now is the time to sign up.
2 Months Before
– Start grooming: A growing number of grooms are getting into a beauty routine before the wedding day. Whether it’s waxing, Botox or beyond, this isn’t something that should wait until right before the event in case there is a reaction.
– Choose groomsmen gifts: The groom should purchase gifts for his best man and groomsmen.
– Buy the bride a gift: While he did get you a beautiful engagement ring, it is customary for the groom to give his bride a small gift to present to her the night before or the morning of the wedding.
1 Month Before
– Get the marriage license: This is something the two of you will definitely have to do together. Be sure to check the rules and requirements for the city where you’ll be getting married to make sure you have everything you need.
– Have a good time with the guys: This is the perfect time to plan that last hurrah as a single man.
– Write your vows: If you’re both writing your own vows, it’s best to get started early.
1 Week Before
– Confirm honeymoon arrangements: Check on all plane, hotel and excursion plans.
– Pick up the tux: Go for a final fitting, and then take home your tuxedo and any accessories you might need.
– Work on the toast: Some grooms choose to say a few words at the rehearsal dinner or reception.
– Organize the guys: He needs to be sure all of the groomsmen have picked up their tuxes (or pick them up for everyone), know when/where the rehearsal will be and what time they need to be ready for the big day.